Cheating is one of the leading causes of any relationship ending, though there have been countless relationships where people get away with cheating because their partner isn’t privy to their actions. There are some signs that your partner may be straying, but not always are they obvious. If you start to think that your partner may be cheating on you, here are some tips so that you can go about it the right way.
Recognize New Patterns
What do you do when you suspect your partner may be cheating on you, but you’re not entirely sure how to go about pursuing those concerns? Well, if there are changes in their behavior and patterns, who better to pick up those changes than you?
If you’ve been dating for a good while, odds are you’re familiar with your partner’s habits and mannerisms by now. If you question if they’re being faithful, keep a very close eye on any significant changes in the way they speak to you, how they act around you, and if you catch them trying to hide things from you.
Okay, it’s not the first line of defense when you suspect your partner may be cheating on you, but it might come down to snooping on them. If you’ve confronted your partner and gone through the proper steps to addressing your relationship concerns, but you still have reason to suspect they may be cheating, it’s time to snoop.
Snooping can be tricky, but if you’re careful and get straight to the point, you should be able to quickly gather the information you’re looking for. Whatever you do, don’t do anything illegal or crazy. You’re already breaking tons of moral laws by snooping, but sometimes you have to dig for answers.
Talk to Their Friends
If you suspect your partner is cheating, the best people to talk to may be the people closest to them, besides you of course. You don’t have to confront them with suspicion and worry that your partner may be cheating. You can start with a less aggressive approach if you want to play it safe. Oftentimes when partners cheat, they use the classic “I’m going to hang out with some friends” excuse.
If you want to fact-check their whereabouts on certain days, casually ask their friends some inquisitive questions about the time they may, or may not have spent together. It’s an easy way to gather information and see how they react to the questions. Unless they’re exceptionally good liars, or just flat-out telling the truth, you’ll be able to gauge their reaction and hopefully get some answers.
Be Honest About Your Suspicions
Let’s be real, the best way to deal with your suspicions is you be straight up and honest with your partner. The base foundation of any and all healthy relationships is trust. If you can’t trust your partner, you have a real crisis on your hands. To flourish in a healthy relationship, you need to be able to openly communicate about everything under the sun. That includes the topics that may be difficult to discuss. If your partner refuses, they probably aren’t the right person for you anyway.
If confronting them about your suspicions didn’t work and you’re still suspicious, it might be time to move on to greener pastures. You won’t always have all the answers and that’s okay. If your gut is telling you something is going on behind your back and you have real reasons to believe it, it’s okay to leave.
Remember to Relax
One of the worst things that you can do for a relationship is come in hot and heavy with accusations, especially if it turns out that your partner wasn’t actually cheating. For that reason, you’ll want to make sure that the first thing you do is make sure to relax and keep an open mind about what could really be going on as to why your partner is acting differently.
Relationships are built around trust and coming in with accusations is almost a surefire way to break that trust between both parties. Clear your consciousness, do something relaxing like going for a walk, or anything that allows you to collect your thoughts, and make sure that you’re levelheaded before initiating any confrontation.